Balancing stress

screen-shot-2016-10-13-at-10-02-53-amMy neurologist recently informed me that the common triggers for seizures are low magnesium, lack of sleep and stress. At my last appointment, my doctor asked if I felt stressed. I chuckled inside because when you are a patient, especially with multiple health issues, stress seems to be a natural part of your journey. I believe this applies to everyone in life. However, we have the power to make choices to limit some of our stress, and also give ourselves moments of relaxation and reprieve from the weight on our shoulders and worry on our minds. Balancing the stress, is an important part of our journey as we strive to live as positively and healthily as possible.

Endless Love


Valen and Noah on their wedding day

Before Noah and I moved from Pennsylvania to California in May of 2010, he asked my dad for my hand in marriage. My father said yes, but was honest with him and cautioned him that our future together may not be easy because of my health. I recently found out that Noah’s mother had the same conversation with him. I appreciate our parents being open with Noah because I, too, had this talk with him. Noah was well aware of the potential of our future, was fully committed and asked me to marry him. We celebrated our five-year wedding anniversary on September 17th.

Third graders’ perspective on PKD

fullsizerenderWe all have different perspectives on life and living with PKD. Our uniqueness makes the world a beautiful place, and we can all learn and grow from each other. After speaking to more than 85 audiences across North America over the years, I’ve received an array of responses when educating others about PKD. Some people deeply connect to my story because they live with the disease every day; others are medical students fascinated to talk to a person with PKD versus learning about the disease from a textbook. I’ve spoken to doctors and researchers who are working tirelessly to find a treatment and cure for PKD patients. One audience of eager listeners that stands out in my mind, however, was a group of third graders at Hayshire Elementary School in York, PA.

Life Beyond PKD


Valen took ballet as a child.

As children, we are encouraged to get involved in pastimes such as sports, clubs and hanging out with friends. I recall doing ballet, gymnastics, singing lessons, piano and sleepovers with friends. When you talk to parents, it almost seems like their main job is to drive their children to different activities. As adults, it is easy to get distracted and lose sight of our own interests. We’re busy working and helping others like our family, or if we are PKD patients, busy caring for ourselves.

Dad’s steadfast support

Disclaimer: This post contains an instance of graphic detail regarding the effects of internal bleeding.

Dad and Valen as child

Valen as a child with her Dad

Noah and I have lived across the country from family and friends for six years. We often say that we spend more quality time with them versus quantity time given that we see our parents only once or twice a year since moving from Pennsylvania to California.

14 years of life post-transplant

ENDPKDSome things are too grand for the mind to comprehend. For example, I am having trouble processing that my 14-year kidney transplant anniversary will be two days from now. It’s hard to think that, 14 years ago, I was basically on my deathbed. There were, however, a few key people who believed I would survive – including myself – who wanted me to live and helped make that happen.

Life is full of challenges, triumphs, pain, joy, sorrow and milestones. It is a beautiful work of art full of peaks and valleys that will include happy events and sad ones, good health news and bad news, too. The sooner we embrace the ebb and flow of life, the more enjoyable it will be.

Finding the Positives

Pilates instructor in Sedona AZWhen hearing the words polycystic kidney disease, it is easy to think that we endure a disease that only affects our kidneys. However, PKD is far more than that. We can face issues like aneurysms, diverticulitis and high blood pressure, to name a few. Living with PKD means we are likely managing and dealing with several things along with keeping our kidneys and the rest of our body healthy. Plus, there are patients like myself who have additional health challenges that are completely unrelated to PKD. For instance, I have epilepsy and scoliosis, which has led to multiple back surgeries and chronic pain.

An Open Letter to PKD

Valen as a child (1)
Dear PKD,

It’s hard to believe it has been 23 years since we met. You arrived in a fierce and unforgettable manner. I went from having no clue who you were to having an alarming blood pressure reading of 160/140 mm Hg as a 10-year-old, and then being diagnosed with you. Wow, you wanted to be heard and you were, loud and clear. From that day forward, you have led me down a very unique path, one I wouldn’t wish on anyone, yet I’m okay with it. What other choice have you given me?